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Season 1, Episode 10 – From Perfection To Connection: Overcoming Barriers In Love and Intimacy with Michaela Thomas

Season 1, Episode 10 – From Perfection To Connection: Overcoming Barriers In Love and Intimacy with Michaela Thomas

In this episode of How to love successfully, Dr Mari Kovanen, a registered psychologist & conscious dating & relationship coach, has a conversation with Michaela Thomas about perfectionism and how it can be a barrier to a deeper love. 

Michaela Thomas is a Clinical Psychologist, couples therapist, coach and founder of the private practice The Thomas Connection. Michaela specialises in perfectionism and has authored the book The Lasting Connection – develop love and compassion for yourself and your partner.


Michaela helps high-striving women to let go of the pressure of perfection – and burn bright, without burning out. She has an online program Burn Bright.  https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright/ 

Michaela can be found on her Pause Purpose Play podcast and on Instagram under @the_thomas_connection. Her course The Compassionate Couple has been described as ‘life changing’.


Take a seat and your favourite warm drink. I hope you enjoy this episode! 


1.54 How Michaela Thomas got interested in relationship work


02.38 Meeting her husband


05.25 What creates connection


06.06 What stops connection


07.26 Values


08.32 Compatibility

10.58 Pressure to be perfect


13.13 What creates disconnection in couples


14.19 How to get back to intimacy


15.29 When perfectionism may hinder dating


18.14 Hollywood love versus real relationships


19.57 What is behind perfectionism


24.26 What is the antidote to perfectionism?


30.10 Cultivating compassion 


34.04 Flows of compassion


36.01 What is love?

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